When Positive Thinking Isn’t Helpful

http://mommymystic.wordpress.com/2013/07/03/when-positive-thinking-isnt-helpful/

 

"We've all got both LIGHT and DARK inside of us. What matters is the part we choose to act on, that's who we really are." - Sirius Black (Harry Potter)

“We’ve all got both LIGHT and DARK inside of us. What matters is the part we choose to act on, that’s who we really are.” – Sirius Black (Harry Potter)

“I try so hard to stay positive and be grateful, but I just keep falling into these despairing thoughts. I know this is why I keep getting sick.”

I recently heard this from someone I was working privately with and it really broke my heart. This is a woman who has worked for many years in therapy to overcome feelings of unworthiness and shame stemming from having been sexually abused as a child. She has made great strides, and has been exploring energy work as a way to continue and deepen her healing. Her journey has led her to many valuable teachings that have helped her to shift her thoughts towards the positive, and to manifest more love and beauty in her life.”

Continue it on mommymystic’s blog: http://mommymystic.wordpress.com/2013/07/03/when-positive-thinking-isnt-helpful/

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-I think this is a very pertinent idea and one that Cerridwen’s (http://journeyingtothegoddess.wordpress.com/2012/07/03/goddess-cerridwen/) story expresses well. When her plan to take control and inject something positive into an area of her life goes awry, what does she do? She doesn’t scream or despair or give up, she chases those reasons down-not to harm them, but to ingest them and rebirth them as something glorious.

Grief Bindrune

Grief Bindrune: To continue after loss, pain, and transition.

A windmill to cycle through all the pain and loss that might blow your way and transform it into healing energy.

grief rune

Ehwez: To cradle and carry thoughts and desires, and confirm what you have and what can happen.

Mannaz: To help accept help and comfort from others, to best feel and use the love and support that you have, and to help you accomplish whatever tasks lay ahead to get through the trial.

Fehu: To help tie you to the earth with its strength, its calm, and its solidity.  To help keep your eyes on achievable goals, on the good luck that exists, and to encourage you to gain satisfaction from accomplishing the things you need to achieve.

Berkana: To help put all temporary gains and relief back into yourself, so each little instance will help to heal the wound and grow back into a strong and healthy part of your life.  To help nourish and care for you.

Nied: To help recognize your greatest needs, to be able to work with and alter them when you need, and to help your focus go where it is needed at the moment without overlooking what’s best for your recovery in the long-term.

Dagaz: To help new care and beauty nourish and move you beyond this loss, to help you notice and awaken to new and good things, and to help your focus shift to the future rather than carrying burdens any longer than you have to.

Tyr: To help the road forward appear clear before your feet.  To help you wish to care for yourself, to keep your external cares simple, direct, and clear.  To light your path to victory over this trial and lead you to happiness and acceptance of what has changed.

Ear: To help pain evolve into useful thoughts, to help loss be seen and felt without festering, and to drain dark feelings and negativity.

Ior: To help the new lines become comfortable, to help the changed world become home, and to encourage forgiveness.

Ac: To help you find what is left for you, to draw strength from the energy of change, and to set the past apart for a time when need be.

Os: To help acceptance and to provide a conduit to spirit allies and their support.

 

I hope this provides some help and support for the sufferers of the explosions in Boston on April 15th.

Functioning Through Crisis Bindrune

This bindrune is to help people function normally and not drop their everyday lives or everyday tasks, even when they are going through a very intense time or suffering a kind of crisis.  It is therefore a temporary bindrune, but I have found it to be an effective and powerful one.

crisis bindrune

Ior: This rune of boundaries helps to hold the emotions or thoughts that are too intense inside, to embrace them in its circle so there will be a space, however small, outside of those thoughts where you will be able to move and act.  It will not help those who wish to avoid these deep things forever, but it will hold them back when you need to do things normally or simply require a break.

 

Stan: This rune helps to ground you in the moment, so that no matter what’s in the big picture, you will still have focus and time for what is right in front of you.  Additionally, by centering you and strengthening your foundations this rune will help maintain your overall strength and confidence in your ability to outlast whatever is wrong.

 

Othala: This rune pushes you to continue acting like yourself, in spite of any issues.  It tells you just exactly what you are capable of and reminds you that not everything is something  that you need to deal with.  Othala draws clear lines between what is yours to do now and what is not, making it easier to shed unnecessary burdens and concentrate on functioning.  Moreover, its lines create a secure space for you to work from, separating external energies or problems from piling onto your work and empowering you to take care of yourself and your things first.

 

Isa: This rune helps to stem the tide of a crisis by freezing peripheral, unneeded fears and problems that arise from it for you, leaving you free to delve down into the deepest places and deal with the core of the issue first.  In the moment, it helps you to step away from deep feelings and tend to immediate issues  for a time.

 

Tyr: This rune helps to keep you moving through life, to keep walking down your path even when you feel like there’s not one there or you’re not sure you can walk anymore.  This rune pushes you to continue to tend to the normal functions of life that need attention and reminds you that there will be a time later when you’ll want to find yourself upright so it’s good to remember how that feels every so often, even if you can’t stay up all the time.

 

Wunjo: Wunjo helps to herd sensations, allowing us to swing into joy for a little bit even when we’re overwhelmed with misery.  In this bindrune she helps us live normally for a moment by giving us back our full range of emotion rather than staying trapped in overriding ones we haven’t gotten through yet.

 

Laguz: The water rune helps our minds and energies flow forward, to the present task that needs doing, and to the future where things must have been done.  In order to function properly we need a decent amount of focus and thought to be untangled from deeper issues and clear for positive use.  Laguz sends us those energies when we need them and allows us to rejuvenate and rest in those newer present and forward-looking thoughts, so long as we don’t try to use those energies to avoid ever going back into deeper problems that need dealing with.

 

 

I hope this is helpful during the turbulent times of Saturn in Retrograde.

Tarot Deal Meditation Poem 2

When shuffling and dealing the tarot cards for myself I often find that I’m composing a poem in my head.  I find it a very grounding exercise and a soothing invitation to meditation and intuition:

 

One for the water that draws me here.

One for the earth that I hold dear.

One for the fires that refine fear.

One for the air whose winds must steer.

 

 

New Year Snake Affirmations

As we enter the Year of the Snake…

 

-Snakes undulate.

They never move in straight lines.  Snakes are constantly shifting, forever changing their direction and taking in both sides, and it does not hinder them from swiftly reaching their endpoint.  Hence, even if it feels like I am constantly changing course, readjusting decisions, and discovering things I thought were side items not related to my main goals, it does not mean I have lost my path.  It means I am flexible, that I have the capacity to evolve, and that I am seeing a wider picture.  Most importantly, it does not mean that I will reach my endpoint any slower, just that I can reach it richer.

-Snakes connect.

Their bodies press against the ground they slither over, the item they coil around, into the air when they rise.  It does not have a specific body part like feet to take on the job of connecting it to the outside world most of the time, snakes feel that connection with their entire body.  This year would be a good time to feed connections, to grow in mindfulness, and to welcome intense feelings.

-Snakes warn.

Whether it’s rattling, hissing, or spreading their hoods, snakes signal when they are about to attack.  Even when under direct threat, they take a moment to express themselves and to give this respect to others.  Listen for that space of opportunity to retreat from negative situations and take a moment for expression when needed.

-Snakes coil.

Snakes can see and feel all sides of something through their ability to encircle it.  Many snakes react to problems by literally embracing them, wrapping them up until that issue has no space to cause problems, irrational thoughts, fears, or pretend that it’s something bigger than what it really is.  At that moment, the problem can be killed.  Don’t run from problems, be strong enough to just coil.

-Snakes shed.

Snakes shed their skin and leave the one that didn’t fit properly behind.  If something doesn’t fit into your life right now, it doesn’t mean it was wrong to include it, or it’s a sign of failure, or that you need hold on.  It can be shed.

-Snakes poison.

Snake venom carries a lot of power.  Enough power to cross the greatest boundary of all: between life and death.  If used correctly, this power inside can propel past any boundary line, even if it seems so surmountable that to cross it would seem like an entirely different life.  It might be scarier than poison, but boundaries are crossable.  It’s the Year of the Snake.

 

Happy Chinese New Year, everyone!

Fulla’s shadow: Rapunzel

Lately I’ve felt drawn to contemplate Fulla.  (“Fulla, whose name means ‘Fullness,” “Bounty” or “Plenty.” Fulla is most often described as a handmaiden, possibly sister of the Goddess Frigga. According to the Edda, as Frigga’s Handmaiden, Fulla is entrusted with carrying her casket, looking after Her shoes, and being privy to Her secrets.Fulla might have been viewed as a Goddess of abundance, wealth, prosperity, harvest, and maybe even household management.the gold band Fulla wears round her forehead symbolizes nobility and Her unbound hair indicates Her unmarried status. (Karlsdottir, p. 133). She also speculates that like Sif, Fulla’s long and flowing hair can be viewed as being symbolic of the ripening grain, which would tie nicely into Her role as Habondia, Goddess of the earth’s bounty.”  From: http://krasskova.weebly.com/1/post/2010/11/decembers-deity-of-the-month-fulla-keeper-of-friggas-treasures.html)

 

The more I think about this quiet goddess, the more she seems to be the matriarchal, powerful version of Rapunzel, before patriarchy decided she needed a prince to save her:

-Firstly, both ladies are recognizable by their long, flowing hair.  This is not as superficial as it might sound as in both cases this hair is a link to the earth, to welcome (through bringing people inside the tower or through working together to bring in the harvest and/or sharing the plenty you have), and to abundant growth.   The difference is that Fulla’s abundance feels free and natural, and belongs wholly to herself, whereas Rapunzel is depicted as needing her plentiful hair for protection and escape, as a conduit to external power.  The symbol’s basically the same, the difference is that one lady is powerful and the other is victimized.

 

-Secondly, both Fulla and Rapunzel are linked to the earth-Fulla through portraying wheat and nature’s bounty, and Rapunzel through her mother’s need for rampion plants.  Even in this backstory, Fulla brings out the positive and best in nature, symbolizing control and Rapunzel’s life is worsened and controlled by her link to nature.  Yet, both ladies symbolize the fruits of a harvest, their beauty reflects the generous and good parts of nature, and they remind us that all life should be connected to the earth.  One lady is simply denied her authority and agency in portraying this legacy.

 

-Thirdly, Fulla’s duties center around the space and belongings of her sister Frigga.  Her duties to guard Frigga’s casket and slippers would dictate that Fulla spend much of her time in Frigga’s apartments.  This echoes the relationship of Rapunzel and the witch: she must stay inside a space belonging to the more powerful woman, who has at least an adopted family kinship with the long-haired maiden.  Once again, the similarities are striking but the role of power is completely switched.  Fulla’s position as right-hand lady to Frigga granted her great power and knowledge.  Fulla’s ability to keep secrets and be trusted with important messages is a testament to the wealth of reliance and ability attributed to this goddess.  Most importantly, Fulla keeps by her sister’s things in order to protect them, to support her sister in her power and therefore claim recognition for being partly the source of the abilities of the mistress of Asgard.  It is Fulla in the proactive role, using her agency, and creating even the power technically outside of her and belonging to her sister.

Rapunzel, on the other hand, is shown to be kept within the witch’s confines for her own protection, rather than in order to protect her tower.  Even the versions that show the witch as gaining power from Rapunzel in some form deny Rapunzel agency or power in that dynamic.  So long as the witch is there, Rapunzel cannot have power-she needs to overthrow this other woman.  In Asgard, women knew how to work together to share and build power.  Rapunzel’s story undermines this by denying non-absolute views of authority-it must be oppressor and oppressed.  Moreover, the ability of the maiden to offer protection and plenty is completely reversed.  Rapunzel’s tower has become a symbol of denial, rather than a bastion symbolizing her strength and guarding ability.

 

-Fourthly and most basically, Fulla the maiden goddess owns her own golden band of nobility.  She needs no prince to ennoble or enrich her, just as she needs no prince to rescue or act for her.  Just because this archetype has been carried off and subjected to male dominance does not mean we need to forget her calm power, reassuring protection, or empowering support.

All hail Fulla.

Tarot Deal Meditation Poem

When shuffling and dealing the tarot cards for myself I often find that I’m composing a poem in my head.  I find that it helps keep me grounded and focused, particularly when I’m about to do a reading that I’m anxious about.  It just really helps me to stay removed from my mundane thoughts about the question and slip into the meditative, intuitive side of my mind that can read the tarot spread without letting it get tangled up in my hopes and fears of what the spread will say.

 

Today’s tarot deal meditation poem ran thusly:

 

One for the ground that’s always around,

One for the air, that mysterious stair,

One for the water, as it whispers one another,

One for the fire as towards truth it spires,

And one for me upon this day-

Please bless my read of this array.

 

I also often find that the form my meditation poem took adds to the reading of the cards themselves.  That was the case today-my earth/pentacle card was a reminder that I already have all my resources.  My air/swords card spoke of inspiration and connection coming from my spiritual, higher sources.  My water/cups card spoke of a multitude of influences and directions.  My fire/wands card made clear a realization I had begun to suspect.  And the card representing me did indeed come as a token of blessing.

Does anyone else find that they use rhymes or other meditation techniques to aid with tarot reading for themselves without emotional tangles?