When Positive Thinking Isn’t Helpful

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"We've all got both LIGHT and DARK inside of us. What matters is the part we choose to act on, that's who we really are." - Sirius Black (Harry Potter)

“We’ve all got both LIGHT and DARK inside of us. What matters is the part we choose to act on, that’s who we really are.” – Sirius Black (Harry Potter)

“I try so hard to stay positive and be grateful, but I just keep falling into these despairing thoughts. I know this is why I keep getting sick.”

I recently heard this from someone I was working privately with and it really broke my heart. This is a woman who has worked for many years in therapy to overcome feelings of unworthiness and shame stemming from having been sexually abused as a child. She has made great strides, and has been exploring energy work as a way to continue and deepen her healing. Her journey has led her to many valuable teachings that have helped her to shift her thoughts towards the positive, and to manifest more love and beauty in her life.”

Continue it on mommymystic’s blog: http://mommymystic.wordpress.com/2013/07/03/when-positive-thinking-isnt-helpful/

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-I think this is a very pertinent idea and one that Cerridwen’s (http://journeyingtothegoddess.wordpress.com/2012/07/03/goddess-cerridwen/) story expresses well. When her plan to take control and inject something positive into an area of her life goes awry, what does she do? She doesn’t scream or despair or give up, she chases those reasons down-not to harm them, but to ingest them and rebirth them as something glorious.

Grief Bindrune

Grief Bindrune: To continue after loss, pain, and transition.

A windmill to cycle through all the pain and loss that might blow your way and transform it into healing energy.

grief rune

Ehwez: To cradle and carry thoughts and desires, and confirm what you have and what can happen.

Mannaz: To help accept help and comfort from others, to best feel and use the love and support that you have, and to help you accomplish whatever tasks lay ahead to get through the trial.

Fehu: To help tie you to the earth with its strength, its calm, and its solidity.  To help keep your eyes on achievable goals, on the good luck that exists, and to encourage you to gain satisfaction from accomplishing the things you need to achieve.

Berkana: To help put all temporary gains and relief back into yourself, so each little instance will help to heal the wound and grow back into a strong and healthy part of your life.  To help nourish and care for you.

Nied: To help recognize your greatest needs, to be able to work with and alter them when you need, and to help your focus go where it is needed at the moment without overlooking what’s best for your recovery in the long-term.

Dagaz: To help new care and beauty nourish and move you beyond this loss, to help you notice and awaken to new and good things, and to help your focus shift to the future rather than carrying burdens any longer than you have to.

Tyr: To help the road forward appear clear before your feet.  To help you wish to care for yourself, to keep your external cares simple, direct, and clear.  To light your path to victory over this trial and lead you to happiness and acceptance of what has changed.

Ear: To help pain evolve into useful thoughts, to help loss be seen and felt without festering, and to drain dark feelings and negativity.

Ior: To help the new lines become comfortable, to help the changed world become home, and to encourage forgiveness.

Ac: To help you find what is left for you, to draw strength from the energy of change, and to set the past apart for a time when need be.

Os: To help acceptance and to provide a conduit to spirit allies and their support.

 

I hope this provides some help and support for the sufferers of the explosions in Boston on April 15th.

Functioning Through Crisis Bindrune

This bindrune is to help people function normally and not drop their everyday lives or everyday tasks, even when they are going through a very intense time or suffering a kind of crisis.  It is therefore a temporary bindrune, but I have found it to be an effective and powerful one.

crisis bindrune

Ior: This rune of boundaries helps to hold the emotions or thoughts that are too intense inside, to embrace them in its circle so there will be a space, however small, outside of those thoughts where you will be able to move and act.  It will not help those who wish to avoid these deep things forever, but it will hold them back when you need to do things normally or simply require a break.

 

Stan: This rune helps to ground you in the moment, so that no matter what’s in the big picture, you will still have focus and time for what is right in front of you.  Additionally, by centering you and strengthening your foundations this rune will help maintain your overall strength and confidence in your ability to outlast whatever is wrong.

 

Othala: This rune pushes you to continue acting like yourself, in spite of any issues.  It tells you just exactly what you are capable of and reminds you that not everything is something  that you need to deal with.  Othala draws clear lines between what is yours to do now and what is not, making it easier to shed unnecessary burdens and concentrate on functioning.  Moreover, its lines create a secure space for you to work from, separating external energies or problems from piling onto your work and empowering you to take care of yourself and your things first.

 

Isa: This rune helps to stem the tide of a crisis by freezing peripheral, unneeded fears and problems that arise from it for you, leaving you free to delve down into the deepest places and deal with the core of the issue first.  In the moment, it helps you to step away from deep feelings and tend to immediate issues  for a time.

 

Tyr: This rune helps to keep you moving through life, to keep walking down your path even when you feel like there’s not one there or you’re not sure you can walk anymore.  This rune pushes you to continue to tend to the normal functions of life that need attention and reminds you that there will be a time later when you’ll want to find yourself upright so it’s good to remember how that feels every so often, even if you can’t stay up all the time.

 

Wunjo: Wunjo helps to herd sensations, allowing us to swing into joy for a little bit even when we’re overwhelmed with misery.  In this bindrune she helps us live normally for a moment by giving us back our full range of emotion rather than staying trapped in overriding ones we haven’t gotten through yet.

 

Laguz: The water rune helps our minds and energies flow forward, to the present task that needs doing, and to the future where things must have been done.  In order to function properly we need a decent amount of focus and thought to be untangled from deeper issues and clear for positive use.  Laguz sends us those energies when we need them and allows us to rejuvenate and rest in those newer present and forward-looking thoughts, so long as we don’t try to use those energies to avoid ever going back into deeper problems that need dealing with.

 

 

I hope this is helpful during the turbulent times of Saturn in Retrograde.

Tarot Deal Meditation Poem 2

When shuffling and dealing the tarot cards for myself I often find that I’m composing a poem in my head.  I find it a very grounding exercise and a soothing invitation to meditation and intuition:

 

One for the water that draws me here.

One for the earth that I hold dear.

One for the fires that refine fear.

One for the air whose winds must steer.

 

 

Tarot Deal Meditation Poem

When shuffling and dealing the tarot cards for myself I often find that I’m composing a poem in my head.  I find that it helps keep me grounded and focused, particularly when I’m about to do a reading that I’m anxious about.  It just really helps me to stay removed from my mundane thoughts about the question and slip into the meditative, intuitive side of my mind that can read the tarot spread without letting it get tangled up in my hopes and fears of what the spread will say.

 

Today’s tarot deal meditation poem ran thusly:

 

One for the ground that’s always around,

One for the air, that mysterious stair,

One for the water, as it whispers one another,

One for the fire as towards truth it spires,

And one for me upon this day-

Please bless my read of this array.

 

I also often find that the form my meditation poem took adds to the reading of the cards themselves.  That was the case today-my earth/pentacle card was a reminder that I already have all my resources.  My air/swords card spoke of inspiration and connection coming from my spiritual, higher sources.  My water/cups card spoke of a multitude of influences and directions.  My fire/wands card made clear a realization I had begun to suspect.  And the card representing me did indeed come as a token of blessing.

Does anyone else find that they use rhymes or other meditation techniques to aid with tarot reading for themselves without emotional tangles?

 

 

A Tea Song

I had been considering revisiting a Tea Song that I recently wrote, and today is perfect for three reasons:

1. First of December

2. First snowfall here.

3. Goddess Unchi-Ahchi is celebrated today.  She rules over tea, tea sets, and tea hearths, and is honored by enjoying her heat, drinking her drink, and sharing these things along with its uses to aid in meditation and spiritual things with close ones.    http://journeyingtothegoddess.wordpress.com/2012/12/01/goddess-unchi-ahchi/

 

As it is hard to share a drink of tea over the internet, I offer you my song.

 

“Tea Song”

 

The kettle is on,

About to sing its smoke-sweet song.

We’ll pour it in shares,

comforting to our cares,

As the aroma erases what’s wrong.

 

Set out the mugs!

It’s time to pour our liquid hugs,

And get out the honey,

the sugar, and milk

to stir into our drink deep.

 

There’s herbs and there’s spice

to make our world nice

As we sip from the magic we’ve steeped.

It’ll flow to our toes,

Curing as it knows,

And the warmth is for us to keep.

 

Set out the mugs!

It’s time to pour our liquid hugs,

And get out the honey,

the sugar, and milk

to stir into our drink deep.

 

Crossposted on http://wheresmytower.wordpress.com/

Sleep Bindrune

I know many people, including myself, who have trouble relaxing and falling asleep.  I have made several Sleep Bindrunes for this purpose.

These are the runes involved in my Turtle Sleep Bindrune, because when I put them together they remind me of the pattern on a turtle’s shell.  Others can, of course, put the following runes together in any manner they think best.

 

 

 

Turtle Sleep Bindrune

-Laguz will help you flow in tune with life’s rhythm, let your energies move where they need to go to help you in and out of rest when you need it, and help you remember to feel strong for taking care of yourself, and get truly well nurtured and refreshed from the rest that you take.

 

 -Berkana’s here to remind you that all work goes in cycles, that all growth happens with nurturing, that sleep is a necessary and wonderful part of the circle.  It’s also here to help you use that sleep and renewal to your best advantage.

 

-Perthro is to help you stay calm and steady in the face of whatever your day is ending or your tomorrow is bringing.  It’ll help you let things go that need to end, hold onto things that need dealing with, and take the right kind of rest and refreshment that you need to deal with whatever newness might be meeting you in the morning.

 

-Isa’s here to keep you still, to keep you restful when you need it no matter how tempting it is to worry or do more.  It’s also here to remind you of how strong and secure you can be in stillness, and how enlightening rest can be.

 

 -Gifu will remind you that, no matter what you’re doing, your friends and spirit allies are still strong and caring for you, even when you’re not aware of it.  It’s also here to help you remember that giving gifts is also something that you need to let yourself do for you.

 

 -Eihwaz will keep you safe, stable, and secure while you are sleeping.  I like to know that you’re safe.

 

 

I recommend using blue for peace and healing.  Another useful color might be black, as it absorbs and negates negative energy.

If anyone else has thoughts or comments on sleep bindrunes or runes that they find calming in general, please feel free to share in the comments.